My Permission Seduction System

What do you mean by “Permission Seduction™”?  


Thousands of Argentine Tango instructors around the world teach steps and figures, but I knew how starting to deeply master the language of tango had changed my own life. It wasn’t just about learning a vocabulary of “moves”.


I came up with the “Permission Seduction™” concept because I discovered that so many people are yearning for satisfying intimacy with the opposite sex, but are unconsciously held back by decades of political correctness, professionalism, and family responsibility. When I returned to the U.S. after many years in Italy, I heard so many sighs and complaints here from both singles and married people about their frustrations with their intimate or romantic lives. (Today Italians, like other Europeans, are not very different in this way from North Americans.)


I thought, the “IF ONLY THEY KNEW what was in store for them the moment they cross that threshold into a room filled with tango music! If only they knew that in that room, the woman who ignored you at Starbucks (or even your wife with whom you may have settled into a routine) is going to stand tall like a queen before you when you approach her to dance, wrap herself around you and snuggle up to your cheek and your chest! But this will happen ONLY if you’ve earned her confidence in your skill at the language of tango.”


I thought, “It’s a kind of seduction, isn’t it? Seduction in a safe context, seduction where the boundaries are clear for your 12 minute ‘date’ on the dance floor.”


The most important thing about learning tango is othe YOU you’ll discover and reveal in the process of acquiring the skills to play this heartfelt and creative game of “Permission Seduction™”. As you master the language of tango, you gradually master the art of truly delighting and receive delight from the opposite sex! This is an art that has been largely lost in North America and in Europe.


In tango our learning process never ends, and so our potential for inner growth through our tango never ends. And it can be so fulfilling because, by using the non-verbal language of Tango, you can express yourself, uncensored, and feel your self-expression welcomed by the other for those 12 minutes of your “tanda” (set). “How can I describe it?”, I wondered. And one day, I remembered marketing guru Seth Godin’s book “Permission Marketing”, which suggested a name that summarized for me a very important aspect of Argentine Tango.

 

What exactly is the “Permission Seduction™ Tango Learning System”, and what does it include?


Since I began to teach Argentine Tango in 1998, and over the course of over 17 years of teaching tango full-time, I have developed a highly effective teaching system that gets excellent results for people who want to dance well from the start. The men’s and women’s programs are similar, but necessarily slightly different. Here are the 9 sections of the programs for men and for women that I’ve created as my own teaching guide:


The “Permission Seduction™ Tango Learning System FOR MEN” – from absolute beginners through advanced levels.

  1. Master your axis (balance) to move securely and solidly whether walking or pivoting. Includes the 5 most essential tango skills.
  2. Develop a powerful and penetrating tango walk, including “the split-second difference in your tango”.
  3. Master the tango embrace as your means of communication and seduction.
  4. Develop a clear and confident lead. This includes mastering the woman’s axis – understanding it, respecting it, and even guiding it.
  5. Learn to confidently and safely navigate the room. Understand and respect the “ronda” (line of dance), using the exquisite simplicity of the “Rose Vine Strategy” to creatively combine walks and figures as you develop your unique artistry.
  6. Fill your “Rose Vine” with an essential vocabulary of 7 walks, 4 traveling figures, and 6 stationary, circular figures (and some of their variations).
  7. Develop good musicality to give “flavor” to your improvisation! Learn Helaine’s “7 Building Blocks of Tango Musicality™”.
  8. Master the art of the Intimate Dynamic Dialog: Be 100% present! You’ll learn how to break down walls and make a true connection with the woman with whom you’re dancing, as you express your masculine self artistically in the intimate tango embrace.
  9. Feel like a King at every milonga. Includes how to be embraceable and irresistible, the art of inviting women to dance, and making your dama shine! Be the man with whom women secretly hope to dance during the milonga!


The “Permission Seduction™ Tango Learning System FOR WOMEN” – from absolute beginners through advanced levels.

  1. Learn the secret to perfect balance in both walking and pivoting; master your axis. Includes the 5 most essential tango skills.
  2. Master the powerful and alluring tango walk, including “the split-second difference in your tango”, and the sensual “tango glide”!
  3. Master the tango embrace as your means of communication and seduction.
  4. Develop the 3 fundamental attitudes that will make you stand out as a superior and fascinating dancer.
  5. Follow beautifully – but like a tiger, active and dynamic, never passive! Includes taking responsibility for your role in the micro-navigation.
  6. Understand the language of “Rose Vine Tango”: Respond with sensitivity, yet with your full personality, to an essential vocabulary of 7 walks and 25 figures and their variations, without memorizing patterns. Master these movements and be ready for any surprise a partner may lead!
  7. Develop good musicality and become skilled at using beautiful adornos in your seduction as you interpret the music! (Embellishments with your free leg.) Learn Helaine’s “6 Building Blocks of Tango Musicality™”.
  8. Master the art of the Dynamic Dialog: Be 100% present!  Learn to break down walls and make a true connection with the man with whom you’re dancing, as you express your Womanly self artistically in the context of the intimate tango embrace!
  9. Feel like a radiant Queen at every milonga. Includes how to be embraceable and irresistible, the art of attracting invitations from the men with whom YOU want to dance, and how to enjoy any milonga whether or not you are dancing.


These systems are designed for novices as well as experienced tangueros and tangueras.